The Myth of the Self-Made Young Man

Every skill you have was given to you by someone else, even if you can’t remember who. Nobody is born knowing how to change oil, balance a budget, or hold a hammer correctly. Somewhere behind every competent man is a string of people, a father, an uncle, a coach, a coworker, who handed something down without making a ceremony of it.

That’s the pattern Psalm 78 assumes and the pattern Psalm 144 prays for, that sons grow up “like plants full grown” (Psalm 144:12, ESV) — not overnight, but through years of proximity to someone further along. Psalm 145 picks up the same thread: “one generation shall commend your works to another” (Psalm 145:4, ESV). Wisdom transmission isn’t a program. It’s relationship, sustained over time.

The trouble is when that chain breaks. A man who never had someone hand something down to him often assumes he has nothing to hand down himself. That’s the myth this initiative is built to correct: nobody is self-made, and no man’s competence, however ordinary it feels to him, is disqualified from being useful to a son who isn’t his own.

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